Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain: How We Multiply Our Suffering Without Even Realizing It
There’s a concept I use a lot in therapy called clean pain vs dirty pain. People come to therapy because they’re in some kind of pain—or as we therapists like to call it, psychological suffering. Sometimes that pain is obvious: grief, anxiety, heartbreak, burnout. But...
Do You Have a Sleep Disorder? Signs, Symptoms, and Why You Should Get Checked
We’ve all heard it before—feeling tired is just part of life, right? Maybe you’re a parent of young kids, you’re working long hours, or you’ve dealt with depression or anxiety. Fatigue just comes with the territory. But what if it doesn’t have to? What if the...
The Case for a Sleep Divorce: Why Sleeping Separately Might Save Your Sleep (and Your Sanity)
Ever had one of those nights where you’re this close to smothering your partner with a pillow because their snoring sounds like a chainsaw? Or maybe you lie awake next to someone doing the restless leg cha-cha while you desperately try to get some shut-eye. If...